It is April and we are having a snow day.
This year, Upstate New York did not encounter a real winter‒if there is such a thing. Here in Rhinebeck, many children were disappointed by the lack of snow days because they lost their chance to sleep in late on a school day. In contrast, New York City, DC, and Boston were hit hard this past January. The blizzard, however, was not big winter news in my book.
What managed to catch my attention were the 83 male senators, none of which who showed up to work post the winter blizzard in DC. Only the ladies shoveled the snow out of their driveways, dug their cars out, put on their boots and made their way to work.
It’s apparent there is a high level of commitment when one attends work on a snowy day or even following a major blizzard when the roads are still a hazard. Well, women are hard workers, but most of us already knew that. We also know that women are highly committed to being successful and fully contributed to the success of their teams. It is just natural to us.
When women don’t show up to work after a blizzard or for any other reason, it is occasionally misinterpreted that their family life hinders their career. That’s is not the case. If the school was canceled and a mother couldn’t find childcare that shouldn’t interfere with her work. I am sure some men have missed work to take care of their children too. As for them, when men don’t show up to work on a snow day, their life outside of work is not questioned. Their ability to do the job and manage their families are never in the same sentence. Women, on the contrary, will still hear side comments.
We are in 2016 and women are still proving and defending our capability for leadership. We still feel that we have to work twice as hard to be on the equal footing. I’m glad that those ladies showed up to work that day. I’m glad we can have this conversation. I’m glad that we can bring to consciousness that women no longer have anything else to prove, protect or defend. We have arrived; the ladies in Congress remind us of such.
Men and women are equal parts in this game. Our decisions to manage our lives, our ambitions and our families are our own. Anyone still in the ice age questioning our right and ability to be great leaders needs a cup of chamomile tea to chill out. However, being equals starts with us. We cannot expect other people to give us what we instinctively know is already ours‒equality. We do not ask for shoes when we already have them, right? Don’t ask for equality. Live it. Embrace it.
Let’s show up to work if we can make it, or let’s take a snow day if we don’t have anyone to watch the children. We do 150% on the non-snow days. Our thoughts, emotions, and actions will change the group conscious. But it must be an inside job first. Think it, know it and live that we are equals because we are. We are the heart of humanity. Go ahead ladies and take that snow day, and if people ask you why, let them know that schools were closed. Period, end of the conversation. Let’s stop keeping scores and live our equality. We got this!