Is this the job for me? Am I a leader? Am I afraid of moving? Should I turn down that promotion? Do I want to marry him? Do I trust her? Should I stay? Do I want a divorce? Is this the right career for me? From time to time, we find ourselves looking for answers to questions like these. We ask ourselves, but we don’t trust the first answer we get or all the other possible options we came across.
Most of the time, we don’t trust the answer we receive because it is not what we want to hear. Many people will run to mediums, psychic, tarot card readers and others to delegate the answer we need to hear from within.
I call this state “limbo,” that’s when we pause right in the middle crippled by doubt or fear to make a mistake. When you are in limbo, it’s hard to trust your intuition. Often, intuition already made itself known, but our thoughts of doubt and fear clog the ability to receive it at its simple and clear form: gut feeling.
Today, I will introduce you to a process that merges science and spirituality to help you find clarity. When you are clear, you connect with truth.
The process will take about 15 to 20 minutes. I know it seems to be a short amount of time for finding the truth or answers, but you can really connect with your inner guidance in less than a minute once you know which voice is your inner voice, intuition or truth, and which voice is your ego protecting you by using fear.
This practice will guide you to use your mind and find where your mindset stands in the subject. Then we will connect with the energy center of the body – the throat chakra which is the communication energy center of the body to uncover our truth. Please don’t skip step three of the process. You want to open your intellect, discard unnecessary mindset, and free space to reprogram the unconscious belief with your inner truth.
Get a journal and a pen. I strongly encourage you to begin working with a journal instead of loose pieces of paper. Once you start to practice some of the processes I teach, you will want to return to them and discover and continue to work on the other aspects of yourself that were not as developed the first time around.
First, find a quiet place where you won’t be disturbed for 15-20 minutes. Take three long, deep breathes. This will signal your body to relax. Breathe in and breathe out. You may want to release the air through your mouth by making the Ah sound to help you feel relaxed.
The process has 5 steps:
Step one: Ask the questions
Step two: Answer the questions
Step three: Break the answers apart
Step Four: Crack yourself open
Step Five: Turn your mindset around
I will walk you through each step
Truth Finding Process
Bring a question to mind. I will use the question from a recent client I coached.
STEP ONE – ASK THE QUESTION:
Why Am I afraid of being a leader?
(Ask the question out loud a few times)
Begin by writing all of the possible answers that come to mind, even if you think the answer is silly. If it comes to mind, write it down. Here is an example:
- I don’t want to be a leader
- I hate bossy people
- I don’t want the responsibility
- I don’t want to be judged
- I don’t want to be the center of attention
- I don’t want to work too much
- Leaders are fake
- I don’t want to fail
- I hate people
- I am not competent enough
- Leadership is for men
- I just don’t know everything
- Etc…
STEP TWO – ANSWER THE QUESTION: Because…
- I don’t want to be a leader
- I hate bossy people
- I don’t want the responsibility
- I don’t want to be judged
- I don’t want to be the center of attention
- I don’t want to work too much
- Leaders are fake
- I don’t want to fail
- I hate people
- I am not competent enough
- Leadership is for men
- I just don’t know everything
- Etc…
STEP THREE: BREAK THE ANSWERS APPART
Read one answer at a time and ask yourself, “Is this absolutely true beyond any doubt?” If your answer is NO, cross off the answer. Your journal may look like this:
- I don’t want to be a leader
- I hate bossy people
- I don’t want the responsibility
- I don’t want to be judged
- I don’t want to be the center of attention
- I don’t want to work too much
- Leaders are fake
- I don’t want to fail
- I hate people
- I am not competent enough
- Leadership is for men
- I just don’t know everything
STEP FOUR: CRACK YOURSELF OPEN
Read each of the remaining answers individually, close your eyes, place your fingers of your dominant hand on the front center of your throat, and ask yourself if the answer is true. Wait to hear YES or NO. If the answer is NO, cross it out and move on to the next question. If you the answer is YES, ask “WHY?” and wait to hear the answer. Then ask a second why. Be open to ask the same question multiple times, or more “WHYs” until you feel you got to the core of your answer. Your journal may look like this.
- I don’t want to be a leader
- I hate bossy people
- I don’t want the responsibility
- I don’t want to be judged
- I don’t want to be the center of attention
- I don’t want to work too much
- Leaders are fake
- I don’t want to fail
- I hate people
- I am not competent enough
- Leadership is for men
- I just don’t know everything
Finding the WHYS
1) I hate bossy people.
(why?)
a. People think leaders are bossy, and I don’t want people to hate me (Why?)
i. I get very upset when people are mean to me
2) I don’t want to be judged (Why?)
a. I don’t want to fail (Why?)
i. My parents expect me to be successful and I don’t want to disappoint them
3) I don’t want to fail (Why/)
a. I hate myself when I don’t do well (Why)
i. People will blame me if we don’t succeed
4) I just don’t know everything (Why?)
a. Leaders know more than everyone ( Why?)
i. I am young and have still a lot to learn
Step 5: Turnaround
In this case, 4 mindsets need to change
1) I get very upset when people are mean to me
Turnaround: I get upset when I am mean to people
o Find three times when you were mean to people
2) My parents expect me to be successful and I don’t want to disappoint them
Turnaround: I expect myself to be successful – I don’t want to disappoint me
Find three incidents when you disappointed yourself.
3) People will blame me if we don’t succeed
Turnaround: I blame me if I don’t succeed
Find three incidents when you blamed yourself.
4) I am young and have still a lot to learn
Turnaround: I have learned a lot
Find three incidents when you learned a lot.
When you recall the incidents, you are reprogramming your beliefs. During this process, the mind is more cooperative with your intentions and is less likely to sabotage your intentions.
