When I think about “believing” one memory rushes to mind; it was on the Christmas’ morning when my 7-year-old daughter Erica stood on the top of the sofa looking outside the large living room window and yelled “Mom! Look…reindeer footprints.” Her sister Isabel rushed to see them with her four years old eyes and marveled at the precious marks on the crispy snow covering the backyard. Instantly, my living room window became a screen larger than the Walt Disney’s movies. Little Mermaid, Pocahontas or Mulan had no chance with the magic of the imagination of two girls who believed Santa and his reindeer visited them. The excitement was contagious!
That’s believing at its best: Inspirational! And when you have it, the Universe will set you up to see, hear, touch and smell what you believe. Often, people don’t know what they believe or even if believing is possible. Our realistic friends will need proof. The pessimistic ones will wait for the confirmation of failure. And the believers will see it through.
How do you know if you are a believer? How do know beyond double that you can reach, have or live your dreams? How does believing will help live what you envision?
We hear phrases such as “You can do it,” “Go for it,” and my favorite “Believe in yourself” often enough. Although all are well-intended wishes of confidence, we need to take them in with a grain of salt. They are great advice, but these don’t tell much. They don’t go far enough because self-trust is not an outer state. Self-trust is not heard, it’s felt.
When you ask people if they believe in themselves, about 99% of the time they nonchalantly will say that they do. But how does one really know? We certainly hope that people do believe in themselves and most importantly that we believe in ourselves.
What believing looks like? When does the shift from hoping to believing happens? How does one trust oneself? These are the questions you need to ask yourself. If you are asking this questions, keep reading.
Everyone is born trusting. Sometime between the ages of one and nine, that trust began to deteriorate. Well-intended adults who wanted to protect us from harm taught us to deviate our attention from what we wanted to what we needed to fear. And the law of the universe will confirm that you get what you place your attention in it. This created a habit of lack of self-trust.
We learn lack of self-trust by osmosis. Gradually, we assimilate the beliefs, thoughts, and feelings of the people around us unconsciously. We may want prosperity, but we learned that money is evil. We may wish for business success, but we may have the belief that business people are horrible human beings; we may want a loving relationship, but we may have the understanding that all men cheat.
We always get what you think about. Our thoughts create our emotions, and our emotions shape our actions. The results of our actions form our thoughts that impact our emotions. Do you see the cycle of self-sabotage? If we don’t know our hidden beliefs, we may set ourselves up for failure.
I came to understand that there are four ways to know if you trust yourself:
People who believe in themselves have a feeling of uneasiness lingering around that pairs with any big goal. It is that 3 seconds between not knowing and knowing where we stop to check our thoughts and feelings before we can affirm: I got this. We feel it in our gut. The fact that we have to ask ourselves the question usually means that it is important to us. That uncomforting nudge tells us that we care enough and so we continue believing.
People who believe in themselves tend to act on the small impulses that they receive from time to time. It is like there is an invisible force (and there is one) pushing them to take action on ideas they had just a week ago. These impulses are unpredictable and a bit scary at times. But people who believe in themselves feel the fear and take action anyway.
People who believe in themselves experience many synchronicities which are small wins. People show up, doors open, and problems get solved with little efforts. Every so often, a confirmation of your knowing shows up when you need additional fuel to keep going. It also can be things such as seeing 111, 4444 or a license plate that relates to your goal. Some people looking from the outside will dismiss these events or categorize them as luck, coincidence or superstitions. However, they are the results of the thoughts and emotions of believing working in harmony.
People who believe in themselves find that they are happy often and quickly recover from setbacks. Any positive emotion produces positive thoughts, which create positive self-talk, which produces actions that bring happiness, which fuels their beliefs. Believing in yourself produces happiness. If you are happy, you trust yourself. You know that things will work out for you in the end.
Believing in oneself is a magic thing. That’s is powerful. Self-trust can be restored day by day, hour by hour, action by action. It doesn’t take much effort to begin to regain your gift of being your “own” ally. When you believe in yourself, you have an air of inspiration that is contagious but not pompous.
Find out where you are today. Ask yourself: Do I really trust myself? Close your eyes, place your right hand on your throat and ask yourself. Do I trust myself? And wait for the answer. If you do, keep going. If you don’t, there are tools available.
The world is waiting to be inspired by you. Go ahead and believe in yourself.
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